You're not behind, you're in between
fallow /ˈfaləʊ/ adjective
Inactive on the surface but quietly restoring; a dormancy that precedes renewal rather than signalling decline, a fallow stretch between one chapter of life and the next.
Tick the ones that feel familiar.
Signs you might be in your fallow season. Tick the ones that land.
Everyone moves through seasons of not knowing. Usually more than one, across a life. Some arrive with a clear reason. Some with none at all.
They're uncomfortable, always. But a season like this tends to go one of two ways. Left alone, it can quietly set you back. Met well, it becomes the place you step forward from, into something new.
What people say.
Cut through to a much deeper level than first thought it would. Unlocked parts of myself that I didn't know existed.
Many lightbulb moments throughout the process. Most notably, after the first session I had so much clarity that I decided to hand in my notice and confront other challenges in my life that I'd been putting off for months.
Spacious, but not shapeless.
There's a shape to how we work. Each session moves through two turns: a turn inward, then a deliberate turn back toward your life.
We slow down, understand what is keeping you stuck, and make room for what surfaces. That is what lets things loosen and clarity return.
Then we turn outward: making clear decisions, creating an intentional plan, and adding the accountability that helps change take root.
My approach brings together three things.
Existential coaching means we do not rush past the big questions. When life stops making sense, we stay with that doorway rather than hurrying through it.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps us meet anxious, driven or self-critical parts with curiosity, rather than treating them as the enemy.
The third is a decade of simply doing this work. I trained as a coach and built a practice called Quarter-Life. Over ten years, I've coached and trained more than a thousand people through questions of who they are and what they want next.
For those who like to know the details: I'm a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) accredited by the Association for Coaching, trained with Animas and the AOEC, with a degree in philosophy from Nottingham. Alongside this work I'm continuing my training in existential psychotherapy.
Three ways in.
A single session
One conversation, to slow down, see the ground clearly, and plant some seeds. A good place to start.
90 minutesOngoing work
For when you know you're in something bigger. We work together over weeks or months, at the pace the season needs.
90 minute sessionsExperiences
Small groups and time away, in Barcelona and beyond. A slower, shared way to do this work. Coming soon.
Coming soonA fallow season might look like:
The first step isn't clarity. It's a willingness to look.
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